This blog post has been a journey of sorts of constantly looking backwards, forwards, and sideways. I wrote about #MeToo a few months ago, making a stance that ultimately, our job is to support a victim of sexual harassment/assault and to encourage these victims to not be afraid to speak up. Until that blog post, I was silent when topics of sexual harassment or assault came up because of my own experience. I was afraid of being judged and humiliated. Then came my personal revolution, when the silence was broken and I told myself that I wouldn’t be afraid of making scenes if I had too. It was my own sexual revolution, if you will, against being silent about violation. I still stand by that today but I have a new question for myself: am I free in my new sexual revolution?
This is the goal of any given revolution, isn’t it? Aren’t we in the midst of one now, arguing and redefining what is acceptable sexually and what isn’t? Looking backwards, forwards and sideways so we can allow everyone else to have more choice? Our new sexual revolutions have become about choice. We are living in a time of great change and complex issues. How do we deal with them?
I’ve been considering the other side of the argument recently of our newest sexual revolution of hashtags like #MeToo and #TimesUp. I became interested in the aftermath of #MeToo of the criticisms that were popping up several months ago. Then I recently watched a documentary on Netflix called ‘Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution’ (trigger warnings, trailer and documentary show sexual harassment and assault).
Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution (2017) shows our hook-up culture and thoughtfully examines what it means to be masculine and feminine today. It shows off the ‘new sexual revolution’. According to this documentary, our new sexual revolution is to enjoy sex without the emotional component, to take pleasure without care, and independent of any possible consequence. In this culture, the documentary argues that sexual violation is the norm. Are we free in our sexual revolutions?
This is why, I would argue, we have an intense dialogue between culture divides and generations of feminists happening at the moment. Not only has our sexual revolutions has become more subjective and more about choice, we are challenging certain foundations of sex. Is sex meaningless? My theory is that campaigns like #MeToo challenge this by focusing on the violation. The very fact that there can be violation in sex challenges the view that sex is meaningless. It only brings up more complicated questions about sexuality, gender, and other topics which we don’t have time to explore in this blog post.
The truth is we simultaneously celebrate our newfound sexual freedoms and liberties but we also challenge them. There is a feeling that it could be better. Are we free in our sexual revolutions? We want more and more. We are trapped in our sexual freedoms.
If I am convinced by anything at all, it would be that I have a broken sexuality and that I sin against others while others sin against me. As much as it is important to challenge and fight against hypocrisy and injustice, our hashtag campaigns and open letters will not set us free. It will not set me free. My journey has come to a crossroads here. I will lay my broken sexuality down before Christ, along with the painful violations done by me and violations done against me. I am broken but Christ is whole. I will be, and I am, made whole in Him.
Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution (2017) Directed by Benjamin Nolot [Film] Magic Lantern Pictures