We Need to Talk About Our Friendship

Why did I move to Florida? I’m sitting in the parking lot outside my friend’s apartment, browning under the sun’s hot breath. My fingers pick at Publix sushi that’s gone slimy. Orlando is wet, sticky, violent. It’s the place where you learn the contours of your body through sweaty shorts and tank tops.* Except, I’m wearing long pants. Why did I wear long pants? And … Continue reading We Need to Talk About Our Friendship

My Problems Are Worse Than Yours

This doesn’t happen often. But when it does, I notice it big time. I’m sitting in bible study—this was years ago, mind you—and a person shares with the group: “My biggest sin is pride.” And I’m like, really? Make no mistake, pride is destructive. Just read King Lear. But there is this feeling I get when someone’s problems sound less of a big deal than…cough, … Continue reading My Problems Are Worse Than Yours

What I Long for the Most

“Rachel, are you joining?” A woman at church points to a stack of paperbacks in her Amazon Prime box. I stare. Open my mouth. Close my mouth. “The women’s Bible study?” she adds. Oh. Bible, good. Women, good. Studying together, good. “Yes,” I say. She hands me a copy of the study book. I examine the Instagram-perfect cover: Seasons of Waiting: Walking By Faith When … Continue reading What I Long for the Most

What Happens When You Judge Me

I’ve encountered the holier-than-thou attitude in Christian circles more than once. My friend recalls a man in church who once told him: “There are first-class Christians and second-class Christians. First-class Christians are on fire for the Lord. They love Jesus, they come to church every Sunday eager to worship, and they read their Bible a lot. Second-class Christians, well, they just don’t get it. They … Continue reading What Happens When You Judge Me

You Sound Like An Atheist

“May God bless you,’ the old lady told me. As she walked away, I exchanged a look with my dad, a look that read: That was weird. I’ve said this before in my blog. For most of my life, I grew up in a Christian Reformed Church—think hymns, creeds, pastors in long robes, Dutch Calvinists—and until going to college and transitioning to an expressive evangelical … Continue reading You Sound Like An Atheist

Manic Pixie Churchgirl

So!  A few weeks ago, I introduced a new app that Savvy and I are designing called EDGE, the Dating App for Interesting Christians.  Basically, it was in response to a handful of my friends (admittedly, mostly guys) who expressed how they want to meet a Christian girl – but a really cool, interesting Christian girl. Honestly, I understand this COMPLETELY.  When I was single, … Continue reading Manic Pixie Churchgirl

How to be Friends with a Christian

Are you tired of your non-Christian friends? Last time it was my turn to write, I posted a blog called, “How to be Friends with an Atheist.”  Well, here’s another question: how do you be friends with a Christian?  What are the benefits?  How do you make the most of your Christian Best Friend (CBF)?  Don’t worry!  There are loads of advantages. CBFs won’t drunk-call … Continue reading How to be Friends with a Christian